Split Couples

Split Couples

Many couples who are seeking a divorce are usually in agreement with what they want. Both parties want their relationship to end and they are looking for the quickest way to accomplish it. But what about couples who are split on the divorce decision? Divorces in this category can often be a delicate matter because, when one spouse has decided that they want a divorce, it can be difficult to break the news to their partner. And if the divorcing spouse wishes to remain amicable with the reluctant one, slapping divorce papers in front of them without warning might not be the best course of action. So, what happens to these couples? How is their problem resolved?

Best Approaches

Seek Professional Help

The first option is to seek help from a professional. When trying to convince an unwilling husband or wife about divorce, it’s probably not be the best idea to have the divorcing party try to explain the benefits of splitting. Instead of helping the hesitant spouse to understand the reasons for divorce, this might only serve to generate more anger and confusion. But by using professional help, both parties can better understand what the other is feeling. Once both parities understand each other’s emotions, the entire process can begin to flow more smoothly.

Be Compassionate

The next point to remember is to show compassion. Divorce is a scary process, especially for someone who doesn’t want it. The last thing hesitant spouses need is to be faced with anger and a lack of understanding from their partner. So, instead of responding to reluctance with rage, try to understand how they’re feeling. Imagine being in their position. The person with whom they have the closest relationship has just told them that their marriage is over. They aren’t going to automatically accept or even comprehend that. It is going to take time. And during that time, they might raise objections as to why divorce shouldn’t be an option.

Deflecting Objections

When facing someone who does not want to divorce, several objections will be raised. One of the most common is that it is better to stay together for the kids. Another common one is that everything will get better with time. Because both of these arguments present legitimate cases for staying together, the divorcing spouse needs to be able to make legitimate counter arguments as to why divorce is still the best solution. If divorce is truly what he or she thinks is best for everyone, it needs to be made abundantly clear that no amount of arguing is going to change that. Arguing will only make things worse. And if the couple is wanting to remain on good terms with each other, constant fighting is not the best way to accomplish that goal.


Divorce is not a decision that couples should rush into. It takes a lot of time and thought to truly understand if separating is the best option. If a couple is split on this topic, they should take advantage of every opportunity available to help them come to a conclusion about what is best for them.

If you want to learn more about how to handle a split decision, contact Christine Howard at (864) 282-8575 or email at lnorris@christinehoward.com.

Evaluating the Cost: Separation Agreements

Evaluating the Cost: Separation Agreements

Divorce is expensive. Along with the heartache, divorce also comes with a financial cost. Even though emotions are often running high, couples who are seeking to divorce should consider the cost before they make the final decision. One thing many couples find to be helpful is to separate before they actually file for divorce. Separating can be seen as a trial run of sorts. Sometimes what a couple really needs is time away from each other to see if divorce is really an option. Instead of just rushing into a divorce, separating gives couples a chance to slowly think through whether divorce is truly the right option for them. If at the end of the separation period the couple still decides to divorce, separation gives them the opportunity to slowly move into divorce with dignity. Separation can give the couple time to look at the financial cost without emotions getting in the way. It gives you the time to really think through if divorce is the right option.

An important part of a separation is a Separation Agreement.

What is a Separation Agreement

Simply put, a Separation Agreement is a contract between a couple when they agree to separate as they think through the possibility of divorce. During a separation many of the same issues of a divorce arise. Couples have to work out how they will split property, how they will resolve any financial issues, and most importantly issues regarding their children. A Separation Agreement gives couples the opportunity to settle these issues with dignity.

The Cost of Separation

The cost of divorce in South Carolina can run between $12,000 up to $28,000. This is important for couples to consider and talk through with their lawyer or an experienced professional.

A separation however, is not as expensive. In South Carolina, there is a fee of $150 and an additional $25 fee. You will have to pay your lawyer fees separately, but even those will be significantly less than when you file for divorce.

Take Your Time

Divorce is not something that a couple should rush into. Emotions may be strong, but it’s important to try to think through everything before rushing into a divorce. A separation agreement is an option for couples to look into as they are considering divorce. Separation not only gives you sometime to see if ending your marriage is really the right solution, it also is less expensive than filing for divorce right away.

If you want to know more about separation and what that looks like, contact Christine Howard.

The Cost of Divorce

The Cost of Divorce

Divorce is a messy and difficult situation. There is often a lot of pain and heartbreak involved. With all of the pain in divorce one thing that can make it all worse is the cost. Divorce can be expensive. Especially in a situation where a spouse has been unfaithful the last thing most couples want to deal with is the expensive cost. In South Carolina a divorce can cost up to $28,000. Then, you add lawyer fees on top of that.

The Reasons for the Cost of Divorce

There are several factors that can contribute to the cost of your divorce. If you and your spouse are unable to agree on how to divide your property or if you have children the cost will be significantly higher. And then you have to add your lawyer fees on top of that cost. The expense can be an extra weight in an already heavy situation. Especially in cases of unfaithfulness, the cost can make the divorce even more difficult to go through.

Affordable Divorce

One solution is to look into an uncontested divorce. In an uncontested divorce both spouses agree on how things are divided. There is less fighting and less time spent in court, which means less expense. There will still be a cost, but it will be significantly less. An uncontested divorce is a great option for someone who’s spouse has been unfaithful. An uncontested divorce can help a couple in that situation move on from the heartbreak quickly.

Talk Your Lawyer

It is important as you are considering divorce to talk about the cost with your lawyer or an experienced professional. Ask them about the cost and to help you understand what your divorce will cost you. At Christine Howard, we want to help you understand how divorce will effect you financially so you can make the best decision. If you have any questions about the cost of divorce, please contact us.



No Fault Divorce

No Fault Divorce

Divorce with dignity is one of our core values at Christine M. Howard. We want to help couples work through their divorce with as little stress as possible. We understand that divorce is not easy. We understand that there are a lot of emotions involved. We also know that many couples just want to be able to move on with their lives easily. We want to help you do that.

Divorce with Dignity Through No-Fault Divorce

If you are considering divorce you might want to consider a no-fault divorce. The state of South Carolina recognizes five grounds for divorce: adultery, desertion, habitual drunkenness or narcotics abuse, physical cruelty, and finally what is known as no-fault. In a no-fault divorce all a spouse has to do is give any reason that the state honors for the divorce, the most commonly given reasons being “irreconcilable differences” or an “irreparable breakdown of the marriage.” In this type of divorce you don’t have to prove anything to the court. You and your spouse simply come to an agreement on the terms of the divorce and file it with the court.

More Control, More Personal

A no-fault divorce gives you and your spouse more control over the outcome. In other types of divorce the court is ultimately the one that decides on the terms and issues surrounding your divorce. But, in a no-fault divorce, you are able to make all of the decisions yourself. This allows for the divorce to work out so it meets both of your needs. It is more personal and grants you and your spouse more dignity.

Better for Children

Because a no-fault divorce gives you more control and makes the outcome more personal, it is ultimately better for children. Divorce will always be hard for children. But because of the dignity in a no-fault divorce children will be able to adjust better. There is less time in court and often less of a battle between spouses. No-fault divorce prevents the ugly, drawn-out battles between the parents that leave lasting, negative impressions on the children.

We Want to Help You

At Christine M. Howard we want to help you end your marriage with as much dignity as possible. We know that is no easy task. But we believe through a no-fault divorce, you and your spouse can move on with your lives with your dignity in tact.

Uncontested Divorce: The Advantages

Uncontested Divorce: The Advantages

Divorce is never an easy or simple thing. When deciding to end your marriage there is often a lot of emotion and stress involved. We want to help you process your divorce quickly and with as much dignity as possible. In last month’s blog we talked about an uncontested divorce being an option for those who want to divorce with dignity. In an uncontested divorce a couple has spent a year in separation and have come to an agreement on all of the issues surrounding their divorce often through a separation agreement. This process is one of the best ways to divorce with dignity. Here we want to list some of the advantages of an uncontested divorce.

Advantage #1: Cost

One advantage to an uncontested divorce is the cost. In most cases all you will end up having to pay is the fee to file with the court. Even if you have attorneys involved costs can be reduced if you and your spouse can come to an agreement easily.

Advantage #2: Less Stress

Perhaps one of the greatest advantages is less stress on both parties. Divorce in general can be stressful. It can be stressful for a couple to try to figure out how to do life without each other. In contested divorces, a couple is looking for the court to decide on the outcome. But in an uncontested divorce there is less time in court because the couple has already been able to come to an agreement on their divorce. This means there is less time dealing with the court, which means less stress and more dignity.

Advantage #3: More Private

Even though the agreements that you and your spouse come to are filed with the court and become public record, the disclosures you’ve made to one another do not need to be public. And because you spend less time dealing with the court, there is less information available anyway. This means a couple can move on with their lives without everything being made public.

Contact Us

Contact Christine M. Howard Law if you would like to learn more about uncontested divorce.