When going through a divorce, many couples opt to use a mediator. By doing this, they are able to work together and have an unbiased party to help work out any differences. But before beginning the divorce mediation process, there are a few things that couples should know. Here are several common questions that couples have about mediation.

Why Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation does not automatically mean that the couple can’t remain civil. Rather, the couple might get along realize that they still need help. Having a mediator shows that the couple wants to take every step possible to resolve the divorce quickly and with as little stress as possible. If they have children, it also shows that they recognize that they are not the only ones who the divorce affects. They want it to be as smooth as possible for everyone.

How Does Mediation Work?

In divorce mediation, the mediator will work with the spouses to determine how to best dissolve the marriage. This involves several factors. For instance, if the couple has children, the mediator will help the couple transition from being spouses and parents to just parents. They will also help the couple take a look at their financial situations to help them start planning for the future. The mediator’s job is not to appoint a winner or loser. Instead they are to help both spouses equally and help them determine the best outcome for both of them.

Who Mediates?

Divorce mediators are usually the couple’s attorney. However, there can be other mediators as well. Family therapists can also be used. A good mediator is someone who has training and experience in divorce mediation and the areas that go along with it. These include divorce law, financial planning, taxes, and the emotional effects divorce has on the family.

Will Couples Need to Appear in Court?

Divorce mediation does not require couples to appear in court. The entire process is designed so that couples can avoid unnecessary and stressful court battles. Divorce mediation helps the couple work through their divorce on their own. By doing this, they are saving not only time and stress, but also money.

When Should Couples Begin Mediation?

It is a good idea to begin mediation as soon as the couple decides to divorce. This way they can begin working through their differences in a productive way from the start. By doing this, they are saving time and money. Many couples who begin with the court system often regret it. They say that they experienced an emotional and financial toll that they did not expect. They often wish they had started with mediation from the beginning.

Divorce is never an easy or stress free process. It will take time and it will hurt. But by using a mediator, the process does not have to be impossible. If you or someone you know is thinking about a divorce, contact Christine Howard. Christine will be glad to talk with you and answer any questions you have about divorce mediation or divorce. If you determine that divorce is right for you, she will work with you to determine your next steps. If you would like to get in touch with Christine, she can be reached by phone at (864) 282-8575 or by email at info@christinehoward.com.

Adapted from Frequently Asked Questions About Divorce Mediation by The Center for Mediation & Training.